by “Monica,” mom of trans child
My husband and I raised our son to follow Jesus. We have prayed for him since before he was born. He was dedicated to God as a baby, and we dreamed that he would follow Jesus all the days of his life. We homeschooled, and he and his sister learned to write using Scripture. We were in church every Sunday and did Sunday School and youth group. He made a profession of faith and was baptized at the age of 10. We sang hymns in our home and hosted small groups. Our son was smart, obedient, and respectful. He did very well academically and graduated college early. After graduation, he lived at home and was working in the field of his major. He got along well with his older sister, and we thought we had the “perfect” Christian family.
Isolation and Indoctrination
And then, in 2020, COVID hit. He was instantly unemployed, sitting at home and online all day. At the age of 23, his world unraveled, and unbeknownst to us, he started down a dark and dreadful path that he remains on to this day. He moved out in 2021 to live with a lesbian activist.
In 2022, he was living a life full of selfishness and deceit.
Lies Embraced
Last year, in 2023, he informed us he was a transgender woman.
At 26, he was taking female hormones and threatening suicide if we didn’t embrace his new lifestyle choice.
Our World Crashes
Our whole world crashed. Our hearts broke and are still breaking for our dear son. We love and follow Jesus – how could this be happening? We were not perfect parents, but there was no trauma, no abuse. We followed the biblical prescription to train up a child in the way he should go. We know our son is male and will never be female, no matter what steps he takes. He was knit together in my womb by the Creator of the Universe and was made in the image of God to give Him glory.
Tragically, the LGBTQ cult has taken over his mind, and he is fully convinced that God is not real. He has changed his name legally, tries to present as a woman, and is fully embracing trans-activism. It is crushing to see him reject us, everything we believe, and most of all, Jesus. We have tried to help him see that this is a terrible, deadly path, but it is to no avail. We have prayed and prayed and prayed and will continue to pray every day for his heart to change.
Faith Rocked
Our faith has been rocked this past year as we try to trust that God will see us through this storm, that he is faithful to his promises, and that His Word is true. It has been the hardest year of our lives as we fight to believe in God’s goodness and remember His faithfulness.
But There Is Hope
This summer, I reached out to Marsha at Living Hope and found a lifeline in my deep grief. This Christian group understood that while I love my son, I can never affirm his new female identity. I was invited to join the Friends and Family support group, and it reminds me that I am not alone in this journey. There are other moms and dads out there suffering the pain of grief and rejection who are trying to follow Jesus through this incredibly painful storm.
Through Ricky’s teaching and the vulnerability of those in our group, I see that God has a purpose in all of this. I don’t understand it and may never see redemption for my son, but God is in control. While I don’t want to walk this road, at least I have found fellow pilgrims willing to help me stand when I am bowed down with sorrow.
Living Hope understands the value of encouragement in this journey of faith. It is providing support for people across our country and the world who have been hit hard by the lies of the devil. Thank you, Living Hope, and for those who support this ministry. You are making a difference in my life and countless others who need to know that through the flood and the fire, our God is faithful yesterday, today, and forever.
“Monica” and thousands of other parents are finding hope, encouragement, and help in LHM’s family and friends support groups. These biblically based groups help participants know they are not alone, whether online or in person. If you are interested in participating in one of our free, confidential support groups, contact us for an intake interview.