I Need Friends But Sin Gets in the Way

By Bruno Borges, Men’s Minister 

 

Every human heart carries a deep desire for connection—a longing for fellowship and unity that echoes throughout Scripture. In 1 John 1:6-7, the apostle John clarifies this intrinsic need and shows us how our choices, particularly our continued sinful habits, obstruct the path to genuine relationships. As John writes, “If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin” (1 John 1:6-7, ESV). This passage not only reflects our yearning for relationships but also reveals how sin, when left unaddressed, disrupts the fellowship we seek. John’s words illuminate both the invitation to a deeper fellowship with God and one another and the weight of maintaining habits that can isolate us. 

The Human Yearning for Fellowship 

The theme of community and relationship is woven throughout the Bible, mirroring our experiences. We naturally seek relationships, whether in family, friendships, or communities of faith, because we were made in the image of God, who exists in a trinitarian relationship. As relational beings, we flourish when connected, sharing our lives in trust and mutual support. John’s words resonate with this reality, reminding us that walking “in the light” results in true fellowship—not only with God but also with each other. 

The verse emphasizes how “if we walk in the light, as he is in the light,” the outcome is “fellowship with one another.” This phrase reveals the richness of godly relationships that become possible when we live transparently and honestly. Yet, many encounter repeated disappointments in relationships, feeling isolated or misunderstood. Often, these challenges stem from the barriers we inadvertently construct by walking “in darkness.” This darkness represents sinful patterns that, if left unchecked, hinder our ability to connect authentically and deeply with others. 

Sin’s Role in Disrupting Fellowship 

John’s stark contrast between light and darkness speaks directly to our struggles. Walking in darkness represents living in patterns of sin and deceit, where we hide our true selves or engage in actions that separate us from God’s holiness. The result is not only a disconnection from God but also from each other. John warns that claiming fellowship with God while persisting in sin is a form of self-deception. When we live in this way, our fellowship with God and each other is compromised. Sin distorts our perspective, breeding mistrust, pride, shame, and selfishness, all creating walls where bridges should be built. 

Consider how fear or guilt can prevent us from revealing our vulnerabilities to others. This unwillingness to be open diminishes our relationships, keeping them superficial. Sin, especially the kind that fosters secrecy and shame, keeps us in a perpetual cycle of hiding. We may yearn for connection but find ourselves unable to move beyond guarded interactions because we are afraid to expose our weaknesses. This condition leads to loneliness, the antithesis of fellowship, as we retreat behind walls of self-protection. 

Walking in the Light: The Path to Genuine Relationship 

John’s remedy to our isolation is clear: to “walk in the light, as he is in the light.” Walking in the light implies honesty, vulnerability, and a willingness to confront the darkness within us. We are freed from their grip when we bring our flaws, mistakes, and sins to the light. John encourages believers to pursue a life that reflects God’s truth, holiness, and transparency. In doing so, we experience liberation from the shame and guilt that often drive us into isolation. 

Living openly before God and others is challenging, but it is the only way to foster the kind of relationships we deeply desire. True fellowship grows in environments where people feel safe to share their authentic selves, unburdened by the need to maintain appearances. By choosing to walk in the light, we dismantle the barriers of pride, fear, and self-righteousness that often hinder genuine relationships. 

The Cleansing Power of Christ’s Blood 

John’s message in 1 John 1:7 brings us to the cornerstone of Christian hope: the cleansing power of Christ’s blood. Our ability to walk in the light is not reliant on our moral strength but on Jesus’ sacrifice, which purifies us from sin. This purification process is ongoing, meaning we can continually come back to the light, regardless of past failings. Through Christ, our brokenness is met with grace, empowering us to turn away from the darkness and embrace the freedom of a life lived openly with God and others. 

When we embrace Christ’s cleansing, we are no longer bound by the shame that isolates us. Instead, we find the courage to pursue relationships that are grounded in love, humility, and grace. Our relationships deepen as we allow ourselves to be fully known by God and those around us. In doing so, we find that the fellowship we seek is not only possible but profoundly fulfilling. 

Concluding Thoughts 

In 1 John 1:6-7, the apostle John presents a timeless message about the human desire for relationships and the pitfalls that can hinder it. Sin’s isolating power disrupts our ability to connect while walking in the light and opens doors to genuine fellowship. God calls us to abandon darkness for light, inviting us to be vulnerable, honest, and willing to confront our sinful habits. Through the blood of Christ, we are empowered to walk in this light, experiencing the depth of relationship we were created for.

Ultimately, John reminds us that our desire for fellowship is met in Christ. When we embrace the cleansing power of His sacrifice, we can overcome the patterns of sin that keep us from true connection. In doing so, we enter into the rich fellowship God intends—a fellowship where we are fully known, fully loved, and never alone. As we walk in the light, we will find that the relationships we’ve always longed for are not only within reach but already present, waiting to be embraced.